Lesbians and AIDS, Can They Get IT?

There has always been a misconception that lesbians don't get HIV or AIDS.  A myth that female-to-female sex has too slim of a chance to transmit the virus during sexual activity.  Some people actually think lesbians don't have to worry about safe sex.  If you have believed any of theses myths, you may want to think again.  For the record, anyone who is sexually active is always at risk of contracting an STD, HIV/AIDS, and should always practice safe sex and use protection.

Although there are only a small percentage of reported female-to-female HIV/AIDS cases, that doesn't mean lesbians won't or can't contract the virus through female-to-female sexual activity.  The first ever documented female-to-female HIV/AIDS case, which was in 1984, seemed to lead to other documented cases in 1986, 1987, 1993, and even in 2003.  In the last case, a lesbian and her female partner was possibly infected by sharing sex toys. 

Also, in 1992, the Lesbian AIDS project was developed in New York City.  The program started with a caseload of only 30 women, but within two years, the number had increased to 400.  All were HIV positive lesbians. Currently the Lesbian AIDS project serves more than 1,000 HIV positive lesbians.

How could this be happening you may ask.  Simple.  HIV and AIDS are spread through vaginal and bodily fluids.  In cases with female-to-female transmission, HIV can be spread by vaginal secretions, menstraul blood, or exposure to mucous membrane. 

Finally, No one group of people are safe.  HIV/AIDS does not care about color, race, age, income, or sexual preference.  Lesbians are just as much at risk as everyone else.  To think one part of the community is safer than another sexually active part of the community is just insane.  Always be safe by protecting you and your partner by practicing safe sex. 

Man has AIDS 31 Years, and Still Living a Full Life!



Roger Chapman, pictured right has had AIDS for 31 years

 Roger Chapman, 58, and a gay black male, was told he would probably die within a year after he was first diagnosed with AIDS 31 years ago, but today, Roger is still alive and kicking. His doctors at the time didn't call Roger's virus HIV or AIDS back then, they called it GRIDS.  In other simpler language it was called gay-related immune deficiency, because gay men were the first in the country to be identified with the symptoms.

Chapman remembers, "In the beginning, it was kind of hard because I didn't want to believe it. I used to get dressed every night and wait for the undertaker to come get me so he would find me nicely dressed," Chapman said.

A former IV drug user, Chapman had some decisions to make regarding his life, or his death.  "It came a point where I had to realize that either I'm going to live or I'm going to die."  Chapman believes that people that have the HIV and AIDS for a long time began self-stigmatization.  "We start internalizing those things people say, 'Oh, you are a drug addict, a homosexual, a street worker,'" Chapman said. "We keep hearing those things and a lot of people take it in and that's how we lost a lot of our brothers and sisters. They started believing and they gave up. They gave up."

Not wanting to be just another statistic, Chapman decided he wanted to live, and slowly let go of his feelings of self-hate.  He now is a leader and client representative at Harlem United, a holistic health care center for people in Harlem living with HIV/AIDS. 

Living with AIDS is not a death sentence.  With proper medication and treatment, people are living long lives.  Although men count for 74 percent of AIDS cases, women are still at risk.  Protection is always the best practice, but persons affected no longer have to feel that their life has ended.  After all, Roger is proof that the virus doesn't have to kill you.  If you decide to live, you may still live a healthy life, 31 years later.

Stud Lesbian Comedians: Bold, Brash, and Funny!!!!

Back in my stand up comedy days, about 2 years ago, it was just a handful of stud lesbian comedians out, and we always brought down the house.  Here are a few of my favorites that I've had the chance to work with.  If they are ever in your city, check them out.

D-Loco Kid,



D-Lo



Dlo, for short has been performing for more than a decade.  I gotta be honest with you, she is one of my coolest friends, and I met her the first year I moved to Cali.  The best way to describe Dlo is a big bolt of queer Tamil Sri L.A.nkan American.  She has performed from Canada to Germany doing her one woman show Minor D'Tales, and her stand up comedy across the college circuit.  Her show consists of several characters, all being herself, and several wardrobe changes.  http://www.dlocokid.com/.



Chaunte' Wayans



Chaunte' is from the famous Wayans family.  Yes, there is one of us in every family.  At 28, and the daughter of Elvira Wayans, Chaunte' has followed in the family's footsteps.  We rocked the Comedy Store on Sunset Blvd a few times, and she is destined for bigger stages.  She has already appeared in her first film, Dance Flick with her famous family.  Outrageously funny, on stage she talks about stud lesbians being hard with big boobs, her stud friend getting her girlfriend pregnant, and getting fired by her own uncle Damon.  Now living in New York, she left sunny Cali, for subways and snow in the Big Apple.  If you're in the area, check her out.  www.twitter.com/cwayans.



Kiniya "Shortee" Davis





Kiniya "Shortee" Davis from Oakland, CA is 25 years old, but doesn't look a day over 16.  Shortee and I were semi-finalist at the Bay Area Black Comedy Festival.  This is where a lot of greats got their big break.  Jamie Foxx, Chris Rock, Mike Epps have all been in this competition.  Was it a big deal?  Yes it was, and stud lesbian Shortee Davis held her own.  Shortee now lives in Portland Oregon.  Her stand up consists of being in a gang, getting shot by a bb gun, and robbing folks politely.  http://www.shorteedavis.com/. 

Rapper Snoop Dogg to Perform at Royal Engagement Party

 

No doubt, Prince William knows how to party.  For his engagement party, he wanted none other than Snoop Dizzle to rock the party.  Prince William, who recently became engage to longtime girlfriend Kate Middleton, reportedly wants Snoop Dogg to get the castle jumping.  I hope he doesn't want any of Snoops California herbs though. 

William has loved hip hop for a long time, even inviting Ms. Dynamite and Goldie, Kanye West, and P. Diddy to perform at 2007's 'Concert for Diana.'

The couple may wed in April 2011.

Lesbian Accused of Raping Another Woman

Louisville, Ky. (WDRB Fox 41) Wisdom Duncan faces several charges including rape, robbery, assault, unlawful imprisonment, and terroristic threatening. 

Investigators claim that Duncan, pictured above and left, tied up and attacked another woman.  Police report states, "while the victim was still tied to a chair, the defendant pulled the victim into a closet.  While inside the closet, the defendant took a rope of fabric, wrapped it around her neck and tied the other end to a hanger rod making it tight, actually strangling the victim causing her to gasp for air," said the judge.

Duncan was appointed a public defender, and bond was set at $100,000.  According to court records, Duncan and the victim were once co-workers.  The victim managed to escape, was treated, and released from the hospital.

Fantasia Aborted Married Lover's Baby

Oh what a tangled web we weave.  Fantasia Barrino admitted in a North Carolina court, that she was pregnant and had aborted the unborn baby of her married lover Antwaun Cook around the time she tried to commit suicide.  She also stated that she had an on again, off again relationship with him for 11 months, but believed he had separated from his wife. 

The wife Paula Cook, is considering suing Fantasia over the case of Alienation of Affection Law.  This law is only recognized in seven states, one is North Carolina.  The law states that an abandoned spouse can file lawsuit against the party responsible for the failure of their marriage, typically the adulterous spouse's lover. 

Fantasia offered Paula a settlement of $100,000 but Paula refused during mitigation.

Stud Lesbian Affair Gone Bad between Two Harlem School Administratiors

Harlem, N.Y. (AP) A New York City school principle may be joining the long unemployment line after her lesbian affair with the assistant principle became public.  Crystal Simmons, pictured above, is the principle of Harlem's Academy for Social Action.  She became desperate and sought the help of school administrators when her ex-lover, Candy Jones, threatened to murder her. 

Simmons, who admitted having an affair with Jones, admitted that the couple had sexual relations at school during school hours.  Unfortunately, the behavior is unacceptable according to a source that spoke to the New York Daily News.

Apparently, after the couple broke up in September 2009, Jones claims that Simmons maintained a log about her job performance, then gave her a bad job performance review in June 2010, and then asked Jones to resign.  Jones then insisted that had it in for her.  After investigating, a report indicated that Jones had told staffer Chante Alexander that she would kill the principle if she got fired.  Alexander stated that Jones told her, "it was easy to purchase a gun down South" and her father "had already purchased one." 

Jones refuted Alexander's statements, saying she was only joking about the entire matter, and that she was actually comparing the situation with Simmons to an article involving a female corrections office who gunned down her lover.  (read below.)

According to one former teacher, Daniel Ryan, 50, the affair was well known for a long time.

Back to Simmons, she states that Jones deserved the evaluation she received because she had become derelict in performing her duties.

Stud Lesbian Jailguard kills Ex Lover, Uncle, and Kidnaps Niece

Hempstead, N.Y. (AP)  Police state that 19 year veteran guard Kim Wolfe, a 43 year old Nassau County correction officer killed her ex-lover, Stacie Williams, her uncle, wounded her grandfather, and kidnapped her 23 year old niece.  Wolfe, who wanted to reconcile with her ex-lover, allegedly asked Williams, 45, if they could meet during her break as a nurse's aide at Nassau University Medical Center a little after 1:00 am. It is allegedly at this time that Wolfe pumped 4 shots into Williams and sped to Hempstead, N.Y.  It was there that she got into an argument with her 88 year old grandfather over a will and insurance money.  When her uncle Michael Williams, 56, no relation to Stacie Williams, stepped in, Wolfe allegedly shot him once in the chest, and her grandfather in the leg.  She then kidnapped her 23 year old niece.  Officers responding to the Hempstead assault contacted Wolfe by phone and encouraged her to return her niece.  Her niece was unharmed, and Wolfe was arrested.

Top 10 Websites For Mens Clothing

If you shop online for men's clothing, here are a few names you might want to remember. 

1.  Brooks Brothers:  Here you can find Country Club Polos, Golden Fleece Polos, and Knits, Sweaters made with lambs wool and camel hair.  You can also find Gabardine dress trousers for $199.00 for 2 pair, or $148.00 for one pair.  http://www.brooksbrothers.com/.

2.  Bluefly:  Here you will find your favorite designers like Armani, Burberry, Gucci, and Prada just to name a few.  This is your high end designers in one spot.  http://www.bluefly.com/.

3.  Clothes for Men at Amazon:  You got a wide variety here.  Mostly designers like Diesel, Hugo Boss, True Religion, Levi's and Ecko Unlimited.  http://www.amazon.com/.

4.  Paul Frederick:  This is more of a conservative site, but stylish non the less.  You can find Italian Guabello wool, Glen Plaid wool, and also Houndstooth wool.  Slacks run about $99.00 a pair.  They also have great sales like 2 pair of slacks for $169.00.  http://www.paulfrederick.com/.

5.  Vintage Trends:  Its just what the name implies.  Here you will find retro, hippie, indie clothes.  More military fashions, overalls, bowling shirts, Hawaiian shirts, bell bottom jeans, Levi's 501 jeans, and World War 2 clothing.  http://www.vintagetrends.com/.

6.  Rusty Zipper:  This site is similar to Vintage Trends.  They also sell bell bottoms, acid and stone washed jeans, Baja jackets.  The Baja jackets are about $22.00 a piece.  The sites cover era styles from the 1940's - 1980's.  http://www.rustyzipper.com/.

7.  Under Gear:  Known for under garments and so much more.  No Fruit of the Loom here.  Name brands like Unico, UG, JUSTUS BOYZ, and Keith Haring.  Slacks like Vigoss Dallas Denim, Do Denim, Smash St. Germain, and Expedition. You can find Timoteco lounge pants for $36.00 here.   http://www.undergear.com/.
 
8.  Thomas Pink:  From Jermyn Street London, this designer is definitely high end.  This site sells everything but slacks and jeans.  They have boxers, pyjamas, cuff links, shirts, and blazers starting at $750.00.  The Blue Collection of shirts start at $195.00, while their Comfort Stretch selection begins at $130.00.  The Imperial is $370.00 per shirt.  http://www.thomaspink.com/. 

9.  Casual Male XL:  This is for your big and tall studs.  They have everything.  Boxers, team sports tees, slacks, and designers like Polo Ralph Lauren, Nautica, Cutter & Buck, Michael Kors, and Robert Graham.  They have slacks that offer stain resistance, wrinkle free, and comfort waist bands.  http://www.casualmale.com/.

10. Short Sizes, Inc. :  You got it, this site is for the not so tall people.  They are really the opposite of Casual Male XL.  With that being said, check them out at http://www.shortsizesinc.com/.

Remembering Eudy Simelane

Eudy Simelane was a stud lesbian that loved football.  She was also an equal rights activist, and star of Banyana Banyana, a national football squad.  She was also gang raped, stabbed, and beaten to death, and left in a ditch, all because she was lesbian.  In Africa, when someone rapes a lesbian, it is called "corrective rape."  It is supposed to show the lesbian how to become straight. 

South Africa has the highest crime level of rape in the world.  That's right, the world.  Three out of 4 men begin raping women, not just lesbians, in their teens.  One out of 2 women are raped in South Africa.  The women are more likely to get raped than to learn how to read or write.  One in every 4 men admitted to raping women, and many said they had assaulted more than one victim. 

Action Aid estimates there are more than 500,000 rapes in South Africa each year, as one in 10 men have also been raped, or forced to have sex with other men. 

It was alleged that 3 men raped Eudy Simelane, but only one was held responsible.  To Eudy, it takes the heart of a lion to come out and be gay, lesbian, queer, trans, or bi.  It takes real courage to come out in South Africa.  But it takes even  more courage to be an out activist.  Your life was not in vain.  As today, we salute our fallen soldier.  Rest in peace.

Stud of the Week: Wanda Sykes

I was trying to figure out which stud, butch, aggressive, masculine energy, etc., I would write about first.  So I chose Wanda Sykes.  Why?  Because I love comedy, and you gotta give it up to a stud, that says she's not a stud, and who finally came out during men-all-pause.  For those that might be slow, that's menopause.  But I like Wanda.  At least she's out.  Queen Latifah is still MIA.  "Psst, don't worry Dana, we still know."  But Wanda is cool.  I don't understand her and her partner having children with just one race, unless Wanda knows she may not be there for the long haul and don't want to torcher the kids looking like half Denzel Washington, and half Ellen Degeneres.  That might not be bad when you think about it.  But outside of all of her personal stuff, Wanda seems really cool.  One of the biggest comedians in lesbian history, Wanda started her career during college.

Finally, a website for butches, studs, aggressives, and anybody that loves them!

Today is the first day for my blog; butches, studs, aggressives, bois, etc., and those that love them.  I just wanted to create a site that I myself would want to visit.  So here it goes.  Stories pertaining to studs, clothing, entertainment, etc.  If you like it welcome, if not I send you away in peace and blessings.

Jay'l